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Matteo
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Matteo
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""I'm looking for trouble...is she out there?""
Male
102 Years old
Phoenix,ARIZONA
United States
Last Online: 11/19/2008 12:15 am
Last Update: 05/13/2006 7:27 pm
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THINGS I LOVE: nature, the night, the stars, the seasons, weather, science, knowledge, wisdom, dreams, truth, beauty, mystery, myth, magic, madness, sadness, love, feeling, touching, breathing, crying. Sharing. Bonding. Spending time with people I care about…. discovering Old Friends whom I’ve Just Met (kindred passengers in time, lost in motion, locked together, lost tribesmen from another time and place, perhaps). I am physical. I am sensual. I like to pet and play and flirt. I love activities that involve my mouth and someone else’s body.
Human qualities I like to find in others and strive for in myself...Honesty, open-mindedness, loyalty, tolerance, patience, benevolence, forbearance, forgiveness, charity, pity, mercy....
Favourite things (books/authors/movies/TV, etc): entertainment/media in general, film/video production, reading & writing, films: TWIN PEAKS, ANNE RICE, Babylon 5, Star Wars, TITANIC (my favourite film ever, I don’t care if you think it’s stupid), TOLKIEN—the movies are beautiful, the books are sacred, ElfQuest, Thomas Covenant (the work of Stephen R. Donaldson), Ayn Rand, Harlan Ellison, RED MEAT (www.redmeat.com), Beavis & Butthead, Daria, South Park, Donnie Darko, Party Monster, Orgazmo, FIGHT CLUB, Ben Stiller, Moulin Rouge, PUMP UP THE VOLUME, THE CROW, Blade Runner, Repo Man, Tank Girl, Strange Brew, Cabin Boy, Phantom of the Paradise, TRUST, DROP DEAD FRED, BEETLEJUICE, CASPER, POWDER, EDWARD SCISOORHANDS, UHF, Dark City, LESS THAN ZERO, Somewhere in Time, Austin Powers, The Butterfly Effect, A Clockwork Orange, Heavy Metal, Interview with the Vampire, TRUST, Tommy Boy (Hi love!), The Craft, Empire Records, the John Hughes films (Breakfast Club, 16 Candles, Some Kind of Wonderful, Weird Science, Ferris Bueller), Heathers, Tarantino (Pulp Fiction, Reservoir Dogs, Kill Bill), Kevin Smith (Clerks, Mallrats, Chasing Amy, Dogma, Jay & Silent Bob), Tim Burton (Duh—Nightmare Before Christmas, Pee Wee’s Big Adventure, Sleepy Hollow, etc), David Lynch (Blue Velvet, Lost Highway, Mulholland Drive, Eraserhead, Wild At Heart), the Dark Crystal, X-Files, X-Men, The Terminator, The Abyss, Cruel Intentions, Run Lola Run, Wayne’s World, Undercover Brother, Not Another Teen Movie, Ten Things I Hate About You, Addams Family, Spinal Tap, Grease 2, the Jerk, PINK FLOYD—THE WALL, Reality Bites, Cannibal the Musical, Big Fish, Ford Fairlane, School of Rock, Pirates of the Caribbean, Wild Things, Chicago, Being John Malkovich, Almost Famous, James Bond, Boondock Saints, Napoleon Dynamite, the Matrix, Douglas Adams, Monty Python, Vampires, Star Trek (original and TNG, but not beyond), Battlestar Galactica (old and new), Dallas, and of course, THE ROCKY HORROR PICTURE SHOW, and SOO many more. Do not give me the “indie vs. mainstream” argument: I do not discriminate between them. I look for quality, and intent. MEAN GIRLS is as good as THIRTEEN: merely different in approach. The one is no less valid for being “mainstream and commercial”: it was made with integrity. Something is not bad simply because it was made with means and resources, and it’s not good because it was made with no budget and resources. Low-budget indie things may often have heart and quality, but are as often crap; and for every Emmerich-Devlin contrived commercial cash-in there is a BUTTERFLY EFFECT: something of quality and heart and substance that happened also to achieve mainstream success. I do not approve of “lowest common denominator”, but there is nothing wrong with a HIGHEST common denominator (LORD OF THE RINGS, anyone?). In general I simply like things that make me laugh, and things that make me think, and things that are just FUN…and help to escape the grimness of the world for a bit.
DISLIKES:
“There are only two things in this world I cannot stand: people who are intolerant of other people’s cultures…and the Dutch!”
Hypocrisy, double standards, self-righteousness, bigotry, hatred, dishonesty, disloyalty, pettiness, shallowness, cattiness, divas, prima donnas, drama queens, intolerance, indifference, numbness, homophobia, racism, sexism, STAGNATION—social, ethical, cultural, corporate drones, cubicle jockeys, soccer moms, extremism of ANY kind (even things I agree with--ANYTHING can be taken too far!), violating the free will of others (rapists/killers/tyrants/slavers/torturers are all no-nos in my book), and irrational people with whom you cannot argue, because they are ALWAYS right. Being tickled, being lied to, being strung along., being called "dude", "Matty", or "teddy bear".
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Too many and too eclectic, and not all "dark" and Gothic, I'm afraid. I am open to most forms of rock, I don’t mind classical, and I can handle r&b/rap/pop/dance music a hell of a lot sooner than I can handle country.
Classic Rock--RUSH, Pink Floyd/Roger Waters/Syd Barrett, Led Zeppelin, Beatles, Fleetwood Mac/Buckingham Nicks, Eagles, Billy Joel, the Who, the Stones, Hendrix, Bowie, Queen
"Post-Modern/College" (late 80s/early 90s pre-alternative)--Concrete Blonde, Jane's Addiction, Sonic Youth, the Pixies, the Icicle Works, and the rest of the “Lollapaloozalot”.
90s/Alternative--Smashing Pumpkins, Tool, Nirvana, Nine Inch Nails, Lords of Acid, Type O Negative, White Zombie, Sublime, Garbage, Alanis, No Doubt, Matthew Sweet
"Goth"--old school all the way, baby. LOVE & ROCKETS! The Cure, Siouxsie, Bauhaus, THE SMITHS! (But not Morrissey!), New Order/Joy Division, Sisters of Mercy
80s--Missing Persons, the Cars, the Fixx, Men Without Hats, Planet P/Tony Carey, Tears for Fears—but the 80s were SUCH a misunderstood decade, and the current teenagers (and others!) who are into them…I hate to say…are missing all the good stuff…and the point: the best thing about the 80s was that they ENDED!
Current--White Stripes, Pink (psycho I know!), Godsmack, Dresden Dolls. Modest Mouse, Mars Volta, Interpol and Franz Ferdinand and a few others, seem like interesting artists, but not really into much "new"...it'll start getting cool again in a few years, I hope...
Assorted/no category: The Police (not Sting!), the Ramones, Bob Marley, Dead Kennedys, Frank Zappa
FEMALE ARTISTS! MOST OF MY LISTENING!!!! Linda Perry (4 non blondes), Tori Amos, Kate Bush, Sarah MacLachlan, Heather Nova, The Murmurs, Jane Sibbery, Julee Cruise, Edie Brickell, Veruca Salt, the Sundays, Frente, Lisa Loeb, and far, far too many others….
I wish everyone sweet dreams and erotic nightmares…
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Star Wars, TITANIC (shut up if you think it's stupid), Donnie Darko, Party Monster, Lord of the Rings, Mean Girls, FIGHT CLUB, Moulin Rouge, PUMP UP THE VOLUME, THE CROW, Heathers, THIRTEEN, Tarantino, Kevin Smith, Tim Burton, David Lynch, the Dark Crystal, A Clockwork Orange, Party Doll A Go Go, Napolean Dynamite, Cruel Intentions, the Matrix, Monty Python, Grease 2, and of course, THE ROCKY HORROR PICTURE SHOW, and SOO many more--see INTERESTS
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TWIN PEAKS, Babylon 5, X Files, Beavis &; Butthead, Daria, South Park, Ben Stiller, SNL (75-93), Letterman (82-93), Dallas, Knots Landing, Cheers, Taxi, It's Your Move, Duet/Open House, Star Trek (original &; Next Gen) and so many more....see INTERESTS
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J.R.R. TOLKIEN, ElfQuest, Stephen R. Donaldson, Thomas Covenant, Ayn Rand, Harlan Ellison, RED MEAT, ANNE RICE, Douglas Adams, Neil Peart, Humphrey Carpent, Nicholas Schaffner, Christopher Tolkien, Mad Magazine
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I will list here not only heroes but also those who have had a great effect on me, my work and my life personally. An interesting mix of the mythic, fictional, historical and personal, and I do not feel just now like mining through the BOOKS, TV, MOVIES and interests section to pull out the names of all those who should also be here (though scanning those sections will probably give you a good idea). But I will here name a few at random including several that most of you will have no clue of: J.R.R. Tolkien; George Lucas; Neil Peart; Roger Waters; Wendy &; Richard Pini; James O'Barr; J. Michael Straczynski; Ken St. Andre; Pete Petrisko; Dr. Demento; Jello Biafra; Happy Harry Hardon (Allan Moyle); Harlan Ellison; Michael O'Donaghue; Lorne Michaels; David Letterman; David Lynch; Richard O'Brien; Cutter, Blood of Ten Chiefs; James Cameron; Peter Jackson; Hunter S. Thompson; my friends--Lowell, Justin, Al-X, Gerald, Chuck (Tom), Angelica, Elizabeth, Corrine, Bethany, Jenni, Ashlynn, Fiona, Reyna, Alicia, Sonya--and many more; my beautiful woman, Jenna; and for all our differences, my mother Norma.
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Single
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Producer/Promoter/Filmmaker
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Virgo
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5 ' 10 ''
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Straight
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Phoenix, AZ
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Someday
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I'm an open book
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White / Caucasian
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Some extra baggage
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Mind Your Own Beezwax
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| Who I Am: | I AM MADE FROM THE DUST OF THE STARS, AND THE OCEANS FLOW IN MY VEINS....
I am Matteo the Great, Messiah of the Freaks. There is much, much more about me below...but please read the following first if I added you, or you want to add me:
I am a Rational romantic mystic cynical idealist and eternal refuser of growing up. Do labels matter? Whether or not.....I am a freak, and a geek. A lot Goth (aesthetic sense), a little punk (attitude), a little hippie (can't we just get along?). I'm not emo, I'm not a juggalo or maggot....but I'm cool with everyone. I'm more a late 80s/early 90s MOD. (A very overlooked and misunderstood genre/era/classification.) I am a child of the 80s, but a young man of the 90s…and gods, I cannot wait for the current 80s obsession to end. Sorry kids…what was great in the 80s WAS great….but I lived it…and I wouldn’t live it again. Give me 1991 and NEVERMIND, baby, and bring on the Lollapalooza.
I am just a man...but NOT JUST A MAN. Because, among other reasons, I have catlike reflexes, the strength of ten men, I was raised by poodles, I will someday fly like Superman and I will live forever. (Some of these things are true.)
Accept me for who I am, or do not accept me at all—But I AM WHO--AND WHAT--I AM.
SO BE IT.
I confess to a touch of vanity and narcissism…and yes, even arrogance. But for the most part, my ego only APPEARS inflated: I keep it well in check and my true self is fairly humble. (Self-confidence, self-awareness, and strength of will are not the same as ego...nor is ego all bad!)
I am a breaker of cages, a fixer of broken wings, an opener of doors and of eyes. I am a bridge between people and times and places and events…a living link and catalyst. I’m a flyer and a dreamer. I seek all the other flyers and dreamers….and wish to fly with all the other birds like me.
I have a dark side, I have a weak side, but I also know how and when to shine, and to perceive things in the realms of the unseen. I do not fear my dark side: it is part of who and what I am; and only through embracing it can it be transcended, managed, and used. Repression breeds fear, anger, hate. Acceptance breeds understanding, compassion, tolerance. Also, my dark side is in direct proportion to my light. And ultimately, I am a child of light. A force for good, a commander in the Army of Light. By choice, nature and inclination.
I can be a sappy romantic. I can be silly. I can be thoughtful, pensive and quiet, and I probably keep too much inside. I try to do all I can to help the people I care about and often leave very little for myself. I am an altruist and always want to believe the best in people, and give the benefit of the doubt--and while I'm usually disappointed, I keep doing it. I am a people person. I generally like most people…or at least tolerate them and don’t go out of my way to belittle them. I am blessed with many friends, and many friendly acquaintances, and very largely do not consider myself a snob (like everyone, I have my moments, but they are the exception and not the rule). My friends and acquaintances range from celebrities to street kids to business owners and everyone in between. I simply believe there is more good than bad in people, no matter how naive, idealistic, or Pollyanna-ish it may seem to everyone else.
“The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few…or the one.”
I believe in the golden rule--"do unto others as you would have them do unto you". I do not go out of my way to point out what I think are flaws or failings or faults in other people and who they are, or how they present themselves ("god, people who dress like that and cut themselves and listen to that band are SO STUPID!"--etc)--I believe in judge not lest ye be judged. I generally give everyone the benefit of the doubt. I am cool to you unless/until I have a reason to be otherwise. Usually because you have been uncool to me or someone I care about, or displayed one of the qualities I despise (listed below--ignorance, arrogance, hypocrisy, self-righteousness, etc.) Indeed, I usually do not judge anyone at all unless/until they give me a REASON to do so--but then, WATCH OUT. I pick my battles and I seldom start conflicts, my own or others--but when I do, I fight to win.
“Never start a fight, but ALWAYS finish it.”
I fall in love often and easily, and almost always with the wrong people at the wrong time. I have recently broken this pattern, however, probably for the rest of my life. (Oh, I shall still fall in love often and easily, but it matters not: I have met the mate of my heart, soul and life—you may see her greatness under the profile THELOVEMONKEY).
I am a NON-vegetarian, non-smoker (except for the occasional clove), non-drinker and no drugs--BUT I AM NOT STRAIGHT EDGE! (For one thing, I'm too supportive of carnal pleasures.) What other people do is their own choice so long as they do not hurt others. "Do as thou wilt, but harm none."
I am very spiritual, in my own way; but I do not fall into any set religious, philosophical, political or social categories. I believe in the Judeo/Christian notions of forgiveness, redemption, personal responsibility, and self-sacrifice….and that there are times when ACTION is required to accomplish anything. I revere the Zen/Eastern concepts that all is balance, that everything affects everything else (the butterfly effect!), that all life and energy and thought are connected, and that passivity has its place. The core of Paganism in all its forms is that nature is to be revered and respect—the natural world has an energy that can be tapped and used for good but should NEVER be disrespected or abused—and this is certainly something that I take to heart (leaving aside the trappings of deity and ritual). And even aspects of Satanism have their place: Know yourself. Be yourself. Do not be a victim. Do not be a fool. And as I said above…do as thou wilt, but harm none.
I believe there is a higher power, for lack of a better term it could be called God, in the supernatural, in the afterlife, and the spiritual realm, in beings and entities and energies and powers beyond the understanding of humans as we are…. but I also think the pool of human knowledge and perception is still far too small to conceive of the reality, and all the attempts of religion of ALL kinds are at most guesses: at best, well-intentioned but misguided, and at worst, a great tool for destruction, control, misuse and abuse. I find the “occult” fascinating, but also, so misunderstood, filtered through both poor human perception as well as the prejudices of the religions those who embrace the occult are rejecting. Much like God, our concepts of it are HUMAN inventions that have little or nothing to do with their reality. Simply put, the true nature of all these things is too vast and ancient for us to grasp, so why give a name and place rules upon something that surpasses us? Better to create your own relationship on whatever level you are capable of…and be content.
But I do believe there is something else, and that we continue, and that perhaps even there is a place where everything is right and good and everyone is happy and there is no longer any hurt, and no longer anyone to blame, and where all the unfinished stories are told, and all the lost pets and children and parents are reunited. You may call this place Heaven, if you like. And in Heaven, everything is fine.
Human politics are beyond flawed, and I shall not even go there. Suffice it to say that if it is always a choice between the lesser of two evils (and ignorances), then we are currently under the most evil and ignorant regime imaginable, and I do not look for things to get better—at least, not because of the governments of humans.
I prefer to do what I can, in my own small way, to raise people up, make them believe the best in themselves, give them a reason to live, to hope, to rise up out of the darkness of their minds and surroundings and upbringings and BELIEVE that there IS, indeed, some good in the world that is worth fighting for.
I wish to seek and unite all the lost and scattered tribes of the underground children...dark and light. Solidarity. Unity. The world would see us ALL destroyed or conformed…why fight amongst ourselves?
That is why I regard this site as the best I have ever been to. I adore it. Here, so many dark and light and beautiful kindred souls gather, and share, and though there it has its dark corners and so do many of them, on the whole, each one of them is a candle flickering in a vast cultural darkness.
EACH SMALL CANDLE LIGHTS A CORNER OF THE DARK. Can you imagine the combined light of a billion candles burning? We could light the whole world with TRUE light and energy and knowledge.
To that end, I also LIVE for THE ROCKY HORROR PICTURE SHOW, which I run in the Phoenix area. Does this seem an odd way to “better mankind”? Perhaps, but it is where fate, choice and circumstance have brought me. It is the one-stop home for all freaks, geeks, misfits, loners, dreamers, rebels, poets, artists, bohemians, Goths, punks, etc, etc, who don't fit in elsewhere, and I'm PROUD to be the one who keeps that door open for so many others (especially younger people) who believe they have no place in the world...and then to find it there, that there ARE others like them. It is a beautiful thing. If you would like to know more, please read my journal entry “Why Rocky Horror?” And as ever...Don't dream it, BE it!
If you wish to know more, you can ASK me anything. You can TELL me anything. Little or nothing can shock, embarrass or offend me, and I’m NOT shy.
SAUDADE
Saudade (sow-dahd)—a Portugese word, considered untranslatable. One definition: yearning so intense for those who are missing, or for vanished times or places, that their absence is the most profound presence in one’s life. A state of being, rather than merely a sentiment.
ABIDING PRINCIPLES OF MY LIFE: Nature, Life, Reason, Passion, Symmetry…and BALANCE, which is the key, crux stone, arch of all that I believe in.
I find the following quotes to be true, even if some of them may be clichéd:
“Be who you are, and say what you feel. Because those that mind don't matter, and those that matter don't mind.”
“You laugh because you think I am different; I laugh because you seem all the same—and yet, I know otherwise.”
“I think, therefore I’m dangerous”.
“If you’re not outraged, you’re not paying attention.”
“Being weird isn’t enough.”
“What we observe is not nature itself, but nature exposed to our method of questioning.”—Heisenberg.
“Reality doesn’t care whether you believe it.”
“Your focus determines your reality.”
“The easy path is seldom the RIGHT one.”
“It is better to be alone for the right reasons than with someone for the wrong ones.”
“Understanding is a three-edged sword: your side, my side and the truth in between.”
“When your feet are on the path, you needn’t always know where it goes—simply follow.”
FATE AND FREE WILL….
“There is no fate but what we make.”
“Many words have been granted to me, and some are wise, and some are false, but only three are holy: I WILL IT!”—Ayn Rand
It is a random universe with a master plan. We exist in the space between fate and choice, between decision and action. These things are not contradictory, but are essential parts of a whole. We live in the eye of the hurricane, the calm in the centre of the storm, with the winds of fate blowing on one side, and the winds of free will on the other. Our existence, our lives, our perception and our reality are forged from this cauldron. Denying the existence of these seemingly opposing forces, mutually exclusive though they seem, is actually where chaos is born: peach, honor, happiness, contentment, are only achieved through EMBRACING both of them.
WHY ARE WE HERE? BECAUSE WE’RE HERE—ROLL THE BONES
The only thing sacred in the universe is life itself. However, intelligence is precious and should be prized, and each sentient being’s free will should be fiercely protected.
The pursuit of one’s own happiness is a noble goal; but there is nothing inherently wrong in wishing to make others happy as well.
Achievement is its own reward. Pride obscures it. Take delight in the making and sharing of things.
Reason and Passion are the only absolutes by which we should govern our existence—and they should be in balance. Like Fate and Free Will, they are NOT mutually exclusive. They should not be in conflict: they should complement one another. The division between heart and mind, between reason and passion, between instinct and logic, is artificial and unnecessary: balance is the key to all.
I do not like cages. In and of themselves, cages are bad enough, even when they are necessary. But nothing living should ever, EVER be in a cage if not absolutely needed….and NEVER anything with wings! Wings are meant for flight. And I mean that in EVERY way.
EVIL
Evil is the absence of love. Absolute Evil cannot exist, because that is Zero: it cancels itself out. Such evil as there is may be self-perpetuating, but it is also self-consuming: and at some point, the consumption will overtake the perpetuation, and all will be in balance and harmony.
Who I'd like to meet:
"There's not a word yet for old friends who've just met"
By and large I am an altruist, a people person, and as I have said I largely give everyone the benefit of the doubt, unless and until they give me a reason to do otherwise. The only people who are my un-friends are those who plot and scheme, those are self-righteous, hypocritical, arrogant and convinced of their own superiority (and everyone else's inferiority). The kind of people who read Machiavelli, The Art of War and Fight Club as manuals for living. Those who insist on putting others down for its own sake, making others uncomfortable, and generally being twats. I do not like such D-sciples and their leaders and followers. I do my very best to avoid viewing people who associate with such folk as "guilty by association" but I confess it is not always easy...I do yearn for a world where we COULD all just get along, though sadly I do not foresee this in my lifetime. I will not stop being who I am for it though simply because it is "unrealistic"....nor do I believe it is a weakness (anymore than compassion, pity, sympathy, mercy, charity or love are weaknesses--whatever the military/politically minded may say). And I do believe that the meek shall inherit the Earth....
I am sometimes called a pimp or a ladies man….but the simple fact is, I am a lover of females, period. I do not deny this. I celebrate it. I adore females. I love them in every way. I always have. And for reasons that sometimes mystify me, many girls seem to like me. I find it amusing, and flattering, and humbling; but I certainly do not complain.
I am a huge flirt, and I flirt widely, randomly and indiscriminately—but please understand that this is harmless and (usually) seldom with any desire or intention (much less opportunity, for those who are not local) to ACT upon it: it’s simply fun, natural and healthy.
But while I can be as dirty minded, flirtatious and carnally motivated as anyone (and admit it happily and proudly), I'm also not "after" sex. if it happens, cool, but I'm usually happy to kiss, and just fall asleep with someone I care about...and dream of flying, together....(and if anyone wishes a more detailed view of some of my thoughts on sexuality, its limits, its nature, and its place in modern society for ALL persons, by all means message me.)
But as for love and romance…as I said, I love often and easily, and I KNOW it is possible (and not necessarily a bad thing) to love romantically, or even platonically, more than one person, on more than one level, at the same time. It is simply different for each person, because each person is unique, and whether it’s wise is another issue—as ever, it is case-by-case.
I leave the following here for the record, written for this profile when I first joined:
Things I hope to find in a potential mate/date/whatever....age and race are less considerations than WHO and WHAT the person is. I would rather be alone for the right reasons than tied into just any relationship for the wrong ones. I am not actively looking for a relationship--I have plenty of opportunities--but always keeping an eye out for special people. I DO believe in TRUE LOVE, but it's so rare....I need to connect with someone AS A PERSON, one on one. Someone who can fill me with wonder, to whom I can be a teacher, lover, friend, and who can be, for me, a sister/daughter/lover/best friend/whore. Someone who can accept me for who I am, and accept that I am at the centre of a LOT of people in a very large social structure with responsibilities and a life to match and also accept my “pimp” status, and be patient with me. Someone without a lot of hang-ups, emotional baggage, neuroses, or “damage”.
UPDATE: For over a year and a half, I believed with all my heart that I had truly found my soul mate. I spent all that time in that dream of perfection, only to have it cruelly and heartlessly ripped away from me--right before Christmas, no less. And now I find myself...lost, and alone, and seeking--and having a hard time ever again trusting....but...such is life.
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| Looking For: | Anyone of good will who is not into drama, pettiness or backstabbing; people with an interest in the arts, film, entertainment, sexual deviance and changing the world.
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